A collection of short stories, MGTOW: Why I Cheat: 11 Stories of Freedom For Men by Tim Patten concentrates on men’s relationships, or perhaps the lack thereof, and some predicaments men may find themselves in when it comes to relationships. There are eleven unique stories concentrating on different aspects of experiences men may have with women. After each story, the author bullets some “facts” for men to be aware of in their interactions with women.
I think it’s best to divide my review of this book into two areas of concentrations. The first is the actual stories I read. They were, overall, very well crafted and pulled my attention in until the end. The characters for the men seemed to be better developed than the characters of the women in that they encompassed more of a personality and interests giving them a more realistic feel. The women, for the most part not all of them, were rather stagnant and felt like the same character in many of the stories. The plots were interesting and easy to follow as well as being suspenseful in many cases. If I were judging the book simply based on the stories, I can give this book a four star rating out of five. The stories were well laid out and edited and written. I just found them to be a little stereotypical for both men and women and felt the female characters overall lacked development.
Unfortunately I can’t just rate this book on that because the author has given this book non-fictional features by using these stories as examples and including fact sections that seem to back up the stories after they are presented. First and foremost, the author doesn’t cite any references from where his research steams. These facts have to come from somewhere and the reader should know where this research came from. There are always places that compile statistics and can slant them to be in their favor which is why readers need to know where the research came from and how it was conducted. For example, if my research says 99% of men are bad and come from an extreme liberal women’s group, I would tend to not give that research as much creditability as if the research came from a non-biased sample done by a non-biased research company. Many major publishing companies ask the author to have three references for their facts where this one has none.
The other part of the non-fiction area that concerns me is the constant use of psychological fallacies. For example, the books says “Most women dominate their man through verbal assaults and abuse.” This is an overgeneralization. There are some women that do this. I don’t believe, and my own experience, is that most women do not do this. Of course I think the author will say this is because I am a woman. However, I think it needs to be documented that this book is written by someone who seems to support an extreme men’s liberation group so I would most certainly want to see where the research comes from and what research the author is using to support this overgeneralization. I agree with the author in that men’s issues with these topics often go unchecked or noticed and I can also agree that they are underreported. I can’t agree that every woman is out to use a man and marry them to make babies. This book has the potential to draw attention to some important issues for men if it were properly balanced and didn’t create a stereotype for women and honestly for men as well. To me, the book portrayed women the way I mentioned above, but it also portrayed men as sex crazed, unable to make conscious choices about their sex lives and other areas of their lives, and users of women for sex with all the cheating and strip clubs involved. I don’t believe that about men any more than I believe that women are out to get them.
I’m going to give the author an extra star than what I was going to rate the book in that he is able to explain a phenomena for me that has cleared up my confusion. As I have recently returned to the dating world I’ve noticed an increase in men who want relationships, but not actually wanting a relationship and not wanting to put any work into the relationship unless it involves sexual favors. I hope this isn’t what men’s liberation looks like, but I am seeing it a lot and I think women should educate themselves and if this is what men are looking for they need to be clear upfront instead of this pseudo relationships I see happening, which the author seems to be a proponent of.
In all, the stories are an interesting read, but there’s no stock in this book as a non-fictional book with uncited sources and psychological fallacies abounding. It would still be worth anyone’s time to read as it does address some issues men may certainly face and can explain better the dating scene with men these days. I hope the author invests time in researching his statistics and going into actual research to draw accurate perceptions for men that portray both women and men in more realistic terms rather than the clearly misleading ways I read.